Half a deen?

It is narrated by Anas that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said,

“When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half.”

“O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty.” [Al-Bukhari]

At the Muslim Fair two weekends ago, I found this poster on display. It brought to mind a report of the thoughts of BakerDaughter & Number 1 Son for and against arranged marriages versus love marriages. And that sentence brings to mind an older friend’s comment on her distaste for what she saw as a cultural stigma – that of arranged marriages being welcomed. I have since seen that the un-arranged marriage which she welcomed into her family become un-arranged. Another friend, widowed and a mother of 3 lovely teenaged daughters bemoaned the cultural exclusion of girls from the masjid, wondering aloud how her daughters would find suitable mates. (BH by the way has loudly and frequently stated that BD cannot marry until she is…..40, I think is the figure he started with, but that has decreased – at last utterance, it may have been 28 – from a man who entered wedlock at the age of 24:)) I have seen the gamut of despair to bliss and vice versa in both types of marriages.

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